Sunday, August 9, 2015

Healing vs. Perfectionism

People, once they are healed, will have emotional wounds to deal with eventually. 

It's just a given. Disability of any kind usually leads to rejection and social isolation. Being an outcast hurts, and the only way to cope is to either literally withdraw from the world, or withdraw by creating a false persona. Most people subconsciously opt to do the latter because total isolation is simply too painful. 

To ease the pain, a quest for perfectionism begins, and--it's just a thought--but this quest alone may initially bring people to healing ministries. Why? Because if you are healed, you are whole, and if you are whole, you are acceptable. You are acceptable because you are, in the sense that you now look and act like others around you, perfect. 

Maybe that's how you think it should go. Maybe you think that's how it would go, just doesn't. And when that realization hits, you have to go somewhere to deal with the pain of still not being perfect even though you may look that way on the outside.

So, then, if there is no way to ever truly be whole, should a person pray to Jesus for healing or accept their brokenness and just play the hand life gave them? 

This is an easy question to answer.

We should always pray for healing because, in a nutshell, healing is real. It does alleviate a great deal of pain, and it is a gift that God gives us, and "gives" is the operative word here. We are recipients of grace and mercy. The healing is not earned. We receive it because we are loved by our Father and Creator. 

Perfectionism on the other hand, is striving. We receive nothing. Instead, we try with effort and might to take something from the world around us. I say "try" because the attempt to extract love, acceptance, and approval from others and from God will always be futile. We will always fail. And the result of that failure is, we will never be real...

Every one of us is shadowed by an illusory person: a false self. This is the man I want myself to be but who cannot exist because God does not know anything about him. And to be unknown to God is altogether too much privacy. My false and private self is the one who wants to exist outside the reach of God's will and God's love--outside of reality and outside of life. And such a self cannot help but be an illusion. We are not very good at recognizing illusions, least of all the ones we cherish about ourselves--the ones we are born with and which feed the roots of sin. For most people in the world there is no greater subjective reality than this false self of theirs, which cannot exist. A life devoted to this cult of shadow is what is called a life of sin. ~Thomas Merton


  1. Hi Kelly,

    I am a pediatric speech therapist who believes strongly in God's power to heal those within the autism spectrum. I have been searching for others who are like minded, and so delighted that God led me to your blog. Can we communicate in someway? I am not experienced at all with blogging, so am not sure how to give you contact information. but you can find me on instant messenger. Jodi Davis

    1. Okay, I am not sure how to reach you, either, but if you work in Virginia, then I at least found the right Jodi Davis online! I would happy to talk with you and thank you for sharing your thoughts about God's healing power!